Singles Awareness Day, a.k.a Valentines Day, it’s almost here, because why would the world let us forget February 14th? I almost did, but the world was quick to clap back.
I had this hilarious moment while driving into work this morning which inspired this post. The chick on the radio questioned the listener cheerfully: “Guess what time of year it is?” and I took a moment and honestly thought out loud, “Tax season?” and then as if answering me, the overly peppy woman on the radio shouted back, “Valentines Day!“. I think I almost died of embarrassing laughter as I wiped ‘forever alone’ tears from my cheeks. But then I thought:
WHY? WHY SHOULD I FEEL BAD?
I still think it’s hilarious, but I’m not depressed about not having plans on valentine’s day because I’m perfectly happily single and independent, and you should be too! It’s actually just more annoying that Valentine’s Day is shoved in my face and it’s the society that seems to think it’s its job to tell me I need a boyfriend. That’s not to say I don’t want to find love, ‘cuz of course I do. I’m a romance author–I live for this shit. But instead of dwelling on the holiday’s meaning (whatever that is) I think it’s more useful to take the day to remember how awesome you are and to cherish and LOVE yourself! So, here are some ways to be awesome on Singles-Awareness Day, because eff the haters …
1. Spa Day
Take this however your introverted self needs. This could be scheduling yourself a massage, or how about a basic mani-pedi appointment after work just to treat yourself? Or if you prefer minimal human interaction, take an evening of self care. Head to your local target and snag a face mask, a new nail polish, and make it a night of pampering. Or head to your local LUSH to get a bath bomb (<– that’s my favorite way to pamper myself) It’ll do wonders for your psyche just to take a moment for YOU. Love yourself, it’s okay. Plus, you’ll feel great after.
2. Wine (or beer) + Book
Make it a cozy night in. Grab a book from your to-be-read pile and buy your favorite bottle of wine (or beer). Cuddle up in your favorite reading spot and just set aside some YOU + BOOK time. There’s no way this is ever a bad choice.
3. Order Your Favorite Food
This is one of my favorite “self care” things to do for myself and super simple. When I feel like I’m slaying it at work or in life I liked to treat myself to my favorite meal (because i also always feel like I’m on some sort of diet. Gross). I usually grab it to-go and huddle up in my room and watch Netflix off my laptop. It’s a small splurge but I love it. It’s a mini reward and I think a perfect treat for Singles-Awareness-Day. Nothing wrong with doing something for YOU! My favorite foods (and current obsessions): poke bowls, Pokirrito, ramen (from my favorite ramen restaurant), and thai food in general.
4. Snag a New Movie
This could mean buying yourself a ticket to a movie you’ve been meaning to see or how about splurging on renting a movie off iTunes? Whatever works for you. I’m a huge fan of movies and it can be (stupid) taxing to try and convince my friends to watch the movies I like, so much so that I don’t even bother asking anymore. But take the day to do the things that make YOU happy. I’ve never regretted doing either of these things (and don’t be shy to go see a movie solo, silly!) It also helps me feel a bit caught up, too. I like that because it seems so many movies come out all the time that I always fall behind (like I do with my reading list). My current movie goals? Prepare for award season and watch the nominated movies. (Personally, my favorite’s been Hidden Figures so far).
5. Travel Somewhere
Anywhere. Make it day trip and head to the mountains, or plan an afternoon at the local park. Just get out and go somewhere you enjoy or have been meaning to go to. Stroll a Museum, visit a landmark you’ve never seen, hike a national park, nap on the beach, check out the art murals on [enter name here] Street you’ve been wanting to Instagram. Wherever. You own your own destiny and I’ll be damned if you let Singles Awareness Day get in the way of that.
6. Trip to the Bookstore
If you’re like me, there’s a sense of home and cozy-ness to bookstores, like you’re stopping by to visit old friends and don’t have to worry you’re staying too long. Booklovers know this joy. Go treat yourself to a brand new book. Paperback. Hardback (OoOoh!). Fiction. Romance. Scifi. Coloring book. ANYTHING. Smell it. Touch it. hug it … and read it. One of my favorite things to do for myself which might be why my bookshelf is looking delightfully full.
7. Girls Night Out
You don’t want to be alone on Singles Awareness Day? That’s perfectly okay too! Text your single girlfriends and plan something. Chances are they might be looking for something to do too. Not everyone wants to wallow. Make it simple. Get dinner and margaritas. Have a pajama party. Watch youtube videos of cats together (this could be a bonding experience). Or call your friends to join you for any of the options on this list. Whichever. Just touch base with your friends and see if there up for something. For some, being around thier favorite people is the best thing for their soul. Also, feel free to talk as much shit with your bestest friends, because why not? But try and keep that glass-half-full attitude while you’re at it.
8. Treat. Yo. Self.
I understand how all of these suggestions might fit into this category but try thinking out of the box. Have you been wanting to upgrade your phone? Or how about a new outfit or pair of shoes you’ve been ogling? Splurge on yourself and make this it what you want. You deserve it.
9. Sign Up for a Dating Site
I know this seems absurd to be on this list, but hear me out! Being single and independent is fantastic, I’m right there with you, but I still love a little romance. Sometimes taking a chance on something crazy like free dating apps like Tinder or OkCupid can be super fun–and I get it, it’s also terrifying. I’m currently in the throws of this dating-thing (my app of choice is Tinder), but sometimes swiping on a dating app is a fun ego boost and delving into a flirtatious conversation with a stranger gets me out of a rut #SorryNotSorry. Sometimes even setting up a profile is half the fun.
If you haven’t tried this out yet, I suggest you do because: why not? Getting yourself out there and over coming your insecurities isn’t a bad thing. I can only say that confidently because I date, wait for it–WEEKLY!–Yep, usually about a date a week or every couple weeks and I’m terrified and anxious every single time. I’m filled to the brim with insecurities and facing them has a fresh sting every time, BUT I get to meet a lot of interesting (mostly cute) guys and I learn more about myself, like my likes and dislikes when it comes to love. Sometimes just the life experience is worth the try. But never forget: you deserve to be loved the way you want to be loved.
(I’ve considered doing a blog post on my tinder experiences. Anyone interested in that? Comment if you’d like me to talk about my dating life. What do you want to know?)